Monday, September 30, 2019
Culture of Chinese Family Stereotype Essay
Taiwan, my mother country, though suffering under complicated identification obscurity, is still applying Chinese culture and values. We still commemorate Chinese New Year, QingMing Festival, Dragon Boat Festival, Mid-Autumn Festival, and so forth. We still believe in Confucianism and Chinese ethic moral rules like Ã¢â¬Å" Ã¢â¬ , Ã¢â¬Å" Ã¢â¬ , Ã¢â¬Å" , Ã¢â¬ , to name but a few. In addition, we also share the similar diet culture, since our staple food mostly based on rice and noodles. There are surplus parallels between Taiwanese culture and those adopted in the mother China even though weÃ¢â¬â¢ve been separated geographically for centuries. Though Taiwan is politically independent from China, as a Chinese, I would still accept the perspective that IÃ¢â¬â¢m belonging to part of the Great Chinese Culture Region( ), as we can call it Ã¢â¬Å"Chinese FamilyÃ¢â¬ . Although modern technology and knowledge keep flourishing, people nowadays may think that western culture somehow influence people more, included religion believing , fast food culture, insight of democracy and freedom, western literature, and so on. However, as a Chinese, I canÃ¢â¬â¢t deny that Chinese culture did affect our daily living physically and mentally. Many values originated from the ancient people and philosophers, included those in ,,,, still maintain clear and essential in our mind , since we have been taught to follow the concept and the worship the good deeds those ancient sages and virtuous, like Confucius, Zhuangzi, Mencius, Yao and Shun( )Ã¢â¬ ¦ have conducted. Ã¢â¬Å" Ã¢â¬ , Ã¢â¬Å" Ã¢â¬ , Ã¢â¬Å" Ã¢â¬ , Ã¢â¬Å" Ã¢â¬ , Ã¢â¬Å" , , Ã¢â¬ Ã¢â¬ ¦ these values not only affect the way Chinese people think, but also become a sub consciousness which lead to the way we live. As we often emphasis the importance of studying, Chinese parents are willing to spent their whole life working hard so their children can accept better education because they believe the sayings, Ã¢â¬Å" Ã¢â¬ , Ã¢â¬Å" , Ã¢â¬ . In contrary, western families take less focus on their childrenÃ¢â¬â¢s academic performance; they would rather think that children should seek out their interest instead of obtaining all A grades at school. Furthermore, it would also affect how parents educate their children, and this educating concept would pass on by generations. And the phenomenon is just the same in Taiwan as that in Mainland. As most Chinese parents always believe and hope their children to be the best( , ), they usually devote more than western parents do, just to provide the best resources for their children. This may somehow spoil a child, too. As Chinese family often pass their fortune to their descendants, rather than considering parentsÃ¢â¬â¢ fortune as their own, offspring of a wealthy family may no longer eager to achieve his own life goal and seek his own fortune. In contrary, western children usually gain their own fortune by their hand, on their own, which is considered more independent and responsible. ThereÃ¢â¬â¢s a real story of a business man. Because heÃ¢â¬â¢s so busy and so was his wife, theyÃ¢â¬â¢ve decided to send their 13 years old son to New Zealand for a couple of months, and there was a friend named Marry, who could take care of their child. When the child met Marry, the first thing she said was, Ã¢â¬Å"Listen, my sweet heart, IÃ¢â¬â¢ll like to notice you that IÃ¢â¬â¢m here only to take care of your living, but doesnÃ¢â¬â¢t mean I should make you breakfast, do your laundries and dishes, you should do it all by yourself. YouÃ¢â¬â¢re now 13, which is definitely able to start taking care of yourself. Parents arenÃ¢â¬â¢t responsible to look after your whole life; thus, you should be independent from now on. You live your life and I do mine own business, is that clear enough? Ã¢â¬ After 6 months, while the business man and his wife picked their son back from New Zealand, theyÃ¢â¬â¢re totally stunned; their son had changed thoroughly mature. He began to make breakfast, woke up early himself and was able to schedule his own life, which he never did before. This dramatically change simply based on how western and eastern parents educate their children. As a result, it leads to the circumstance that western children are usually more independent. In addition, the value of women rights also maintain deeply in Chinese peopleÃ¢â¬â¢s mind, though we are now in a world advocating gender equality. Even nowadays, some people still believe the concept Ã¢â¬Å" Ã¢â¬ , Ã¢â¬Å" Ã¢â¬ , Ã¢â¬Å" , , Ã¢â¬ , but mostly the elders. Thanks to the revolution New Culture Movement ( ) brought to the Chinese society. People started to explore and accept new technology and knowledge, not only the perception of Democracy() and Science( ), but also the new century values. For instance, in the old days, women are forced to bound their feet from their young ages, so that their feet may look tiny and delicate, which ancient Chinese regarded as sexy and beauty. They even worshiped tiny feet as Ã¢â¬Å" Ã¢â¬ . This social usage only happened in the upper classes which higher status women did not need to deal with tuff tasks that rural area women did. On the other hand, it also lead to the phenomenon that women were having lower social position than men were. But after the New Culture Movement and other further revolutions, women gradually stopped to suffer from the pain bounding feet brought to them, and started to handle more housework; little by little, womenÃ¢â¬â¢s social status had been raised. When it comes to the argument of womenÃ¢â¬â¢s right and discrimination, itÃ¢â¬â¢s no doubt that Chinese ancient culture and concept have deeply influenced the way the majority behaves. Not only in Mainland, but also the whole Chinese cultural region, included Japan, Korea, Vietnam, Thailand, and other South East Asian countries. Take Japan as an example, Japanese girls are well known for their virtuous behavior, while men are quite accustomed to chauvinism( ). This may be somewhat resulted from the old sayings originated from China; for instance, Ã¢â¬Å" , Ã¢â¬ , Ã¢â¬Å" Ã¢â¬ , and so on. However, women status obviously do rise in this century, modern parents may be more willing to give birth to a girl because they may think girls are sweeter than boys, ignoring the stereotype that having a boy is better than a girl. This stereotype is resulted from the traditional custom that boys are able to pass the family name, while girls no longer belongs to the family after theyÃ¢â¬â¢re married. Plus, this is also a chief reason why ancient Chinese family sent a boy to school rather than a girl, cause only when a boy achieve high social status after , will the whole family gain benefits. Thus, brought out a novel which the feminine role have to disguise herself as a guy so as to be able to pursue education. We can see that phenomenon changes not only in giving birth to a baby, but also in education providing. In the old times, there were mostly boys that could access complete education instead of girls, but now, we may even discover that the numbers of girls are surprisingly higher than boys. Which some researches declaim that itÃ¢â¬â¢s because girls are innately more careful and thoughtful than boys are. The case is similar in industries and working places, more and more Ã¢â¬Å"Iron ladiesÃ¢â¬ exist and keep on controlling the whole company, which may be more success than men. WhatÃ¢â¬â¢s more thereÃ¢â¬â¢re even throngs of specific phrases for modern women, like Ã¢â¬Å" Ã¢â¬â Ã¢â¬ , Ã¢â¬Å" Ã¢â¬ , Ã¢â¬Å" Ã¢â¬ (which refers to women that havenÃ¢â¬â¢t married but are successful in their carriers), and so forth. There is an awkward circumstance that women in upper social status are mostly unmarried, and so as men within lower social status. This is due to two main reasons; first, women education is relatively emphasized than that in the past; second, traditional concept has that a woman should marry a man better than she is. As the result, a woman graduated from high school may marry a man finished college studying; woman finished college studying may marry a guy accomplished graduated school; woman accomplished graduated school marry a PHD guy; and a PHD woman may marry a professor; then who will a female professor marry? Obviously not a guy graduated from high school! This worrying case lead to a sad ending, which then somehow may strictly proofed the saying Ã¢â¬Å" Ã¢â¬ . However, to my opinion, I think this is a controversial issue because being married involves mostly on love itself, we shouldnÃ¢â¬â¢t blame it all to the Chinese cultural effects. But frankly speaking, we canÃ¢â¬â¢t ignore truth that these old sayings somehow match to the phenomena weÃ¢â¬â¢re now facing. Even though women are now capable enough to compare with men in industry fields, there still exist Ã¢â¬Å" Ã¢â¬ , which means however hard women try, the promotion rate and the salaries are relatively lower than that of menÃ¢â¬â¢s. This may also be an outcome of the Chinese stereotypes that men are more capable then women are when it comes to work. For conclusion, old Chinese concepts really influence modern society deeply in an unmeasurable degree. All in all, although ancient Chinese empires had faded into history, glorious kingdoms had turned into dust, brilliant philosophy of ancient saints only exist in books now, the influence they brought to this Chinese world still remain and just couldnÃ¢â¬â¢t be erased from our mind. Chinese culture and ancient concepts couldnÃ¢â¬â¢t be ignored. TheyÃ¢â¬â¢re now the biggest part of our life because theyÃ¢â¬â¢re what we come from, and what foster us. ItÃ¢â¬â¢s our soul, our mother characteristic. Also, theyÃ¢â¬â¢re things that allow us to identify ourselves as a member of this huge Ã¢â¬Å"Chinese FamilyÃ¢â¬ . And because itÃ¢â¬â¢s uniqueness and specialties, weÃ¢â¬â¢re always able to find our loyalties. In this complex culture integrated world, finding a sense of belonging is really important, because it may make us feel comfortable and gleeful to be part of this big family. We can even say that, without Chinese culture, we canÃ¢â¬â¢t be who we are now. Cherish our culture and maintain it well so as to pass the Chinese spirit on and on is what our generation should do. Despite of focusing and arguing on whether IÃ¢â¬â¢m a Taiwanese or a Chinese, ItÃ¢â¬â¢s more vital and meaningful to define myself as a member part of Chinese culture. IÃ¢â¬â¢m from Taiwan, and IÃ¢â¬â¢m a Chinese. IÃ¢â¬â¢m proud of my identity; IÃ¢â¬â¢m proud of this Chinese family I belong to. ItÃ¢â¬â¢s where my mind and spirit mature, where my ancestor struggled for their lives and for the next generation, for us.